A listener wants to know how to be a better roommate, especially because her roommate is too midwestern to say what they need! Meanwhile, Jenn & Trin go places they have never been before. Stick around to the end for this one, folks. Content warnings: around 33:00, the word penis is mentioned roughly 500 times.
"I am going to be a bridesmaid next year for a friend. The problem is, this friend has some very offensive things about another friends of ours--like doubting her struggles with suicidal thoughts and depression." This one's about handling (or NOT HANDLING) a friend who is being incredibly unkind! We also dive into that Twitter thread about the template. You know the one! (Content warnings for broad discussion of mental health, depression, suicide.)
This week, we tackle: "I'm in a group chat and one of the participants has blocked me. We used to be friends, but we're not any longer. I hate that she thinks I'm toxic because I'm not the same person I was back then." Some people don't want to be your friend. This hurts. This sucks. No denying that. But fortunately there are about 8 billion other people on the planet. Here are some thoughts on moving on from mistakes, learning, growing, you know the deal. Content warnings: discussion of misgendering around 4:00 minute mark.
"My friend's boyfriend won't leave me alone on Instagram." This episode is literally about someone sliding into your DMs. Listen as we become physically and emotionally overheated! Content warnings for discussions of harassment and misogyny.
Collaborating with your pals! Sometimes it goes poorly! The question: “I was working on a professional project with my friend. She completely botched the deadline and really let me down. How do I move forward from here?” Counter question: How do we get Jimmy Eat World on our show? Content warnings: 5:02 mentions of fetish, racism. 17:30 animal death, environmental distress. 34:30 balls!
"I have a friend who brags about himself constantly. Every other conversation he starts is about how desirable, intelligent, or successful he is." We've got follow-up questions, such as: "What's it like to have positive self-esteem?" and "So which coast are you from?" Some advice snuck itself in there too.
What if you don't like the person your friend is dating? Can you speak up? Let's discuss the many shades of this very common and confusing topic. Plus. intriguing update on the snail front! Content warning for light sexual content throughout. Gross bug from 9m40s to 10m46s.
Trin is mad online, Jenn finally meets Trin’s snails, and capitalism ruins the party yet again. What can you do about friends who continually try to entrap you into selling crap (makeup, jewelry, Tupperware, sex toys, etc) with them?
Trin cleans off her fire escape, Jenn unloads her feelings about her former neighbors, and together your humble narrators make a stabbing attempt to answer this question: How do I decide who to be friends with? Who is worth investing my time in? Strong language warning for 7:40 to 8:12. Thank you to a listener for sending us pins from your Esty shop! https://www.etsy.com/market/juniper_moon
Jenn shares what is delighting her this week, Trin manages her snail eggs, and a listener writes us to ask if it's OK that she doesn't have or want friends because she just is too exhausted between work and parenting. Is friendship even worth the effort? What if you just don't have energy to socialize? Can you just not have any friends? Is that bad? Is that OK? Do you want to name our book or what?
Great question this week. A listener asks, "How do I know when I'm wanted in social situations? How can I tell?" We've got first-hand insight into this one, as well as snail eggs, night lotion, and hey, do you want to name our book for us? Please and thanks!