"I feel like I'm a doormat. How can I stick up for myself to my friends?" Take it from Book 1 Neville Longbottom, this isn't easy to do. This week, we discuss voicing your needs and boundaries. And if your friends continually ignore those boundaries, it may be time to spring-clean those mofos. (Also, Trin was recording from afar and sounds like she's in a bath tub. Sorry about that!)
"How do I make my friends feel heard? What are some empathic words I can use?" Hey, talking clearly and directly about your feelings is difficult. Asking your friends about THEIR feelings is difficult, too! In this episode we discuss how language, while powerful, is still limited and you are probably doing your best, so good job. Also, Trin knows her name is Elizabeth Barrett Browning, not Emily Barrett Browning. She just got excited.
"I was shamed on Facebook for de-friending someone!" and "My friend leaves WAY too many comments on my posts." This week, we tackle these excellent questions about doing friendship on the world wide web, the final frontier. And uh, not to sound too braggy, but we know a LOT about being weird online.
Our gushing review of the new Wonder Woman movie and the friendships it celebrates. Steve Trevor and consent, Etta Candy and female friendship, Ben Affleck barely appearing -- this movie rocked our ass. Diana will fight for those who cannot fight for themselves and WE WILL, TOO. This one's light-hearted, dorky, and full of fandom love. Enjoy.
We here at Friendshipping, LLC accept all political views, unless your political view is shitty. This episode is about choosing to accept your friends in an imperfect capitalist society. Starting with: "So my friend eats at Chick-Fil-A..." CW: discussion of homophobia and racism.
Find out how Trin supports the long distance friends she never sees and when Jenn realized she was becoming a capital-a Adult. In this light-hearted ding dong of an episode, we interview each other about our personalities, relationships, the smell of Chicago, and what, exactly, makes tomatoes so cute to look at!
We got a great question from a student at university (that means college) about taking your friendships to the NEXT LEVEL. Maybe you've got a dozen acquaintances (all over campus, at your work place, whatever) but you're looking for something more more meaningful. Some depth. You know? We've got a few ideas for how to do that! Also, Jenn talks about her most hilariously embarrassing story from college.
Are you constantly worrying about your friend's bad life decisions? Always helping your pals move apartments? Giving rides to the airport? Organizing their schedule? Providing wisdom and advice? If you said YES to one or more of these questions, UH OH! You may be a Helicopter Parent to your friends. This episode is about being the "mama bear" -- when you are too controlling, really involved, care a lot, or simply exhausting yourself at the expense of your friends. Trin admits she was once this Mama Bear and as a result, drops some mind-blowing wisdom that will rock your face off.
So I made a sexist crack, and I feel bad about it. Now what? Can I apologize? Even though it happened months ago? How do I move forward? Am I bad? Am I okay? Am I doomed? Can I see Wonder Woman again? Is Chris Pine moving up on the top Hot Chris list? This episode covers how to handle your shit when you say something problematic. PLUS some non-spoilery gushing over Wonder Woman, because we couldn't not. Content warnings: discussion of sexism, racism, transphobia.
One time Connor Oberst emailed Trin at 2:00 AM and you have to listen to find out why. Or you can listen for the actual advice, which is about handling awkward, I-don't-want-to-talk-about-this conversations with friends. Like when your pal wants to discuss what's bothering you, but you really don't, and you get sweaty, and then your glasses fall down.
How to handle a messy friend break-up and keep your cool when you suspect someone is talkin' shit. This episode is all about zooming down the high road and being the bigger person. Even bigger than James Comey! Content warning for banter involving babies, pregnancy, and cannibalism - you can skip the first four minutes.