Friendshipping simplecast

How do I quit feeling so jealous of successful friends? Can I befriend my ex? Should I ask my coworker why she unfollowed me on Twitter?

Every week Jenn & Trin answer your questions about friendship! We try to advise on the tricky stuff that's making you feel weird.

Write us your questions at Remember that we're not therapists or doctors, although we have spent plenty of time with them.


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    Talk Nice To Yourself

    Jenn's softball team is being bullied online, Trin visits a spa, and a listener asks how to adjust their inner monologue so they can be be kinder to themselves and their friends. What a lovely idea. You're doing the right thing with your face, by the way. Content warnings this week: discussions of body, fitness, self-esteem.

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    The Poison and The Antidote

    This week, we heard from an awesome listener who wants to support a friend who is receiving bad treatment from her family for being gay. Strong content warnings for homophobia, discussion of religion. We threw in "levity breaks" to add a little laughter back into this stupid world. Timestamps below! Cancer Mention Start time: 1m35s Duration: 4s

    Being Gross about the word "Engorged" Start Tim3: 3m19s Duration: 6s

    Levity Break #1 Start Time: 15m21s Duration: 3m45s

    Levity Break #2 Start Time: 28m20s Duration 2m12s

    ANGRY BREAK: Straight Pride Start Time: 33m44s Duration: 3m22s

    Levity Break #3 37m04s Duration 1m50s

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    Scouting DILFs at Home Depot

    A few dedicated listeners asked us to lighten things up and talk about ourselves for some reason. Careful what you wish for. This week, no advice. Instead, plants, sinus infections, some new projects we're working on(!!!), and finally, FINALLY, we grapple with cinematic masterpiece Detective Pikachu.

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    Pretend You Have A Broken Penis

    Let's get META. Our first asker wants to know the best way to ask us a question without giving away their identity, so we went through some best practices when asking us for advice. The next asker is about to embark on the journey of therapy, and wants to know how to do therapy correctly. CW: mention of animal death, mention of penis injury. If you don't care to hear our animal stories, skip to 12m57s for advice.

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    Lube it Up Downtown

    My friend has terrible etiquette on Twitter--what do I do? Am I a bad friend if I delete Facebook altogether and sometimes miss birthday notifications? This episode it's about friendship and social media. Listen as we try to convince you to never subtweet again! Content warnings: we get into discussion of pregnancy in the first eight minutes or so.

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    A Little Bit of Give, A Little Bit of Take

    • My friend uses social media to brag about how busy she is with work.
    • I was offered a job at a toxic company. My friends keep telling me not to take it, but I need to!

    This week, it's all about: being annoyed that your friends might be working too much; letting your friends make their own life decisions; and decidedly not grinding yourself down to dust for someone else’s enrichment! Let's do this thang.

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    Kettlebell Classes and Other Concerns

    "I have become flooded with Facebook messages, at all hours of the day and night, with my friend pouring her life out. What do I do?" is our first question. And our second question: "My friend uses Twitter to tell people to kill themselves." This week, we discuss how to put up boundaries and be direct. Content warnings: very brief hypothetical rape mention and fat shaming mentions. Mention of suicide. In-depth discussion of suicidal ideation.

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    Jorts Season, Baby

    We're stoked on spring time and excited to bring you an episode about little bebes. Sometimes you want to hang out with your friend's kids and sometimes you don't. Here are some thoughts on how to be accommodating to your friends who are parents. Minor CW for brief mention of sick children.

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    Pee Your Pants and Run Away

    What do you do when an almost-friend becomes suddenly distant and uninterested? That's our first question. We're here to tell you that it's OK to feel a little bummed. Our second question, now, got us all frazzled and excited: How can I get my friend to stop taking MORTAL RISKS WITH HER LIFE? Check the content warnings for this one: Erections, war, discussion of violence. Geez.

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