Jenn has a cold, Trin wants a haircut, and we both have advice for a new listener who is lonely and has frankly been through some tough shit. This episode is about making new friends after a bad break up, filling your empty hours, making your apartment feel nice, deciding when to date again, and when to give your beef to a friend. Content warning for brief mention of masturbation mid-episode.
We're back! We're back! Did you miss us? Did you miss the crap out of us? Here's an episode about exchanging gifts with friends and co-workers. One listener wants to know what the frick to do now that her close friend gave her a bottle of wine for her birthday even though... wait for it... she does not drink.
“My boyfriend is close friends with a sexist ass. I’m trying to be civil. How do I proceed here?” Well we have some ideas! We would not call our ideas particularly civil. In this week's episode, allow us to get mad on your behalf.
Our first question asks, "I made a close friend online months ago. But my partner has no idea. It's been going on for months. How can I clue my partner in without feeling guilty for hiding it from him?" This episode is a bumpy thrill ride and we've almost certainly lost one listener, perhaps two.
In this very special episode, we consider how you can best support your non-binary friends. Discussion of pronouns, gender spectrums, and why we let boys run into the street but not girls for some reason. A million thanks to Ian and Maya for guesting!
This week's theme is all about confrontation! Bringing up the thing that's bothering you! Our starting question: "My best friend has been in a long-distance relationship and it's making him SO UNHAPPY. I think they need to break up. Should I say as much?" and then we move into "I worked for a photographer for a weekend. I got payment but not the social media shout-out that he mentioned." Content warning, we muse over sex toys for a bit and now it's unclear why.
It's time for a group activity. The first asker is going on a road trip with old friends and we're fully clenched on her behalf. The second asker's roommate is now dating the annoying dude in her jam band, and it's just the worst. CLARINET!
A concerned listener asks, "My partner is smoking a lot. More than she has before. How do I approach this with her?" In response, Jenn and Trin put their heads together and deduce that weed is funny. Surprise appearance by Dave Matthews! Please note content warning for the first few minutes. We briefly discuss the hearing and men and their mistakes (without names and details). Skip to 5 minutes and 45 seconds in if ya need to.
This episode is all about BOUNDARIES! How do you quietly back out of a friendship with someone who is asking time you don't have? How do I manage friendship with a somewhat famous person I admire? As a woman, how do you handle having a best friend who's a guy? We answer all this and more in Jenn and Trin's weekly fever dream.
Live from XOXO Portland! Failed jokes, crowd work, pesky microphone habits--this episode has everything you never asked for. We also managed to give some advice on awkward small talk, making friends at conferences, and finding collaborators on your creative projects. And at the end of the show, YOU SIMPLY CANNOT MISS a few special version of our theme song from the ridiculously talented Molly Lewis.