Friendshipping simplecast

How do I quit feeling so jealous of successful friends?
Can I befriend my ex?
Should I ask my coworker why she unfollowed me on Twitter?

Every week Jenn & Trin answer your questions about friendship! We try to advise on the tricky stuff that's making you feel weird.

Submit your questions to Keep in mind we're not therapists or doctors, although we have spent plenty of time with them.


(New to the show? Welcome! This episode is a great place to start. This one, too.)

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    IRONFORGE, Long Has it Been

    We're Jenn and Trin and we're here to say: you do not have to be nice and giving tuh-day. You don't have to do crappy favors for friends all the time. And you don't have to forgive people who wrong ya. In this episode, we answer: "I don't want to write a letter of rec for my friend, do I have to?" and "My friend neglected my pet while he was catsitting!" Ohhhh, let us at 'em. (PSST: Listen after the credits for a blooper.)

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    Romantically Interested In Your Gums

    Friends, we've uncovered something very interesting: dentists love Trin. DENTISTS LOVE TRIN. If you don't want to hear about teeth and how much fun Trin has at her dental cleaning appointments, skip ahead to 7:15 because our two actual topics this week are incredible: "How do I ask an Internet friend to meet without being imposing?" and "My friend uses the word fat without realizing they are being hurtful to me." Please note our content warning: we mention some of the shitty ways society treats people who are fat.

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    You Don’t Have to Hang Out With Tom Felton

    Hey everyone, Jenn and Trin here, just a coupla podcast bad boys giving advice that's so dangerous and naughty you can't bring it home to mommy. We start off by offering survival tips for attending a bachelor party when you are broke. It involves our tried and true tactics for sneaking into alcohol into restaurants (but do tip your bartenders). If that's not your style, hang tight for our second question which is a real monster: "My friend is going through a divorce and flirting with someone else who is married. Do I intervene?" WOOF. Also, please note the content warning: mild amusing body horror. If you're not interested in hearing about our medical problems, skip to the 4:00 minute mark.

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    This is Your Brain on Drugs, This is Your Brain on Horny

    You'll need SPF 150 for this red-hot episode. Our first asker wants to know what to do when you've got a "good friend" who is sexist. As you can imagine, we did not hold back! We got mad! We're still mad! Then we uncovered some new sexy territory with how to: manage a crush. On your: co-worker. While you're: in a monogamous relationship.

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    You Can’t Get Into This Bathtub With Me

    You’ve got 99 problems and your friend asking to come over to your house everyday is all of them. In this episode, we discuss the polite-but-firm way to say “no thanks, I don’t want company tonight.” To practice, Jenn attempts to turn down Trin's invitations to hang out and fails in spectacular fashion. Also, we discuss when and how to step in when you suspect your friend is being teased in a group setting. Lots to cover, y’all. Jump into this friendship pool, the water’s fine.

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    The Roommate Drama Special: Do You Know Where Your Mops Are?

    Lil pop quiz for all you roommates out there. When was the last time you swept the kitchen floor? How about cleaned the toilet? Do you even know HOW to clean the toilet? BAM, you’re on notice. In this episode we discuss living dynamics, roommate drama, and being the odd person out. And as a fun bonus, we deeply analyze the best party snacks you can offer, which is advice you didn’t ask for but maybe should have.

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    So You Didn't Get Your Plant

    "I helped my friend get a great job. Now, they're not doing well at this job and I am pissed about it." Whoa! Okay. This episode is about helping your friends, but also butting out. Helping a certain extent. You know there's only so much you can do. BTW, our producer said this is his favorite episode ever, and he has to listen to all of our unedited bullshit. JUSTICE FOR NANCY!

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    Sucky Eel Friends and Midwestern Dads

    "I feel like I'm a doormat. How can I stick up for myself to my friends?" Take it from Book 1 Neville Longbottom, this isn't easy to do. This week, we discuss voicing your needs and boundaries. And if your friends continually ignore those boundaries, it may be time to spring-clean those mofos. (Also, Trin was recording from afar and sounds like she's in a bath tub. Sorry about that!)

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    Use Your Freaking Words

    "How do I make my friends feel heard? What are some empathic words I can use?" Hey, talking clearly and directly about your feelings is difficult. Asking your friends about THEIR feelings is difficult, too! In this episode we discuss how language, while powerful, is still limited and you are probably doing your best, so good job. Also, Trin knows her name is Elizabeth Barrett Browning, not Emily Barrett Browning. She just got excited.

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    If I Delete That, Will They Notice?

    "I was shamed on Facebook for de-friending someone!" and "My friend leaves WAY too many comments on my posts." This week, we tackle these excellent questions about doing friendship on the world wide web, the final frontier. And uh, not to sound too braggy, but we know a LOT about being weird online.

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