Friendshipping simplecast

How do I quit feeling so jealous of successful friends?
Can I befriend my ex?
Should I ask my coworker why she unfollowed me on Twitter?

Every week Jenn & Trin answer your questions about friendship! We try to advise on the tricky stuff that's making you feel weird.

Submit your questions to Keep in mind we're not therapists or doctors, although we have spent plenty of time with them.


(New to the show? Welcome! This episode is a great place to start. This one, too.)

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    Feats of Strength

    To celebrate three years of making this show, your humble narrators discuss their favorite topic: themselves. Trin shares what made her laugh today. Jenn reflects on the glory days. And if you glean any wisdom from this episode, it's purely by accident.

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    Don't You Wish You Were A Whale?

    A listener asks, "My friend REALLY unloads on me. The heavy stuff. I'm worried about her! How can I help?" We've got a few ideas! Are they good ideas? Who's to say. At least this episode is funny. Also, Trin's got a new therapist. Content warning for discussion of depression.

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    Speaking up or Shutting up When Shit's Awkward

    Holy HECK, we cover miles of territory in this episode. It’s all about speaking up — or deciding not to.

    Listeners ask:

    • My boss wants to be my friend. How do I put distance here?
    • My future mother-in-law insists that I call her “mom" and I am not cool with this.
    • And the grand finale: I moved away, and my friend ghosted! She may have changed her number! How do I reach out?
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    You Don't Have To Be Nice

    In this episode, we discuss how it's possible for you to be both 1) kind and 2) impolite! BELIEVE IT. We also offer some suggestions for dealing with a co-worker who is disruptive in your work space. Oh, and... we formally break up with Trin's therapist. For real.

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    Give Me More Than Emojis

    "I'm a touchy kind of person but my friends aren't. How do I approach this without making anyone uncomfortable?" and "I'm in a group text with 14 people I barely know. It's all baby pictures. How do I get out of this politely?" Thank god for Jenn's bachelor's degree in communications or we never would have been able to answer this week's questions, all about: conflicting communication styles! (Note: The first eight minutes of this episode are nutty. Trin shares her bizarre and amazing follow-up story about her WHACKADOODLE therapist. Includes a content warning for brief mentions of divorce and suicide.)

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    Golden Retrievers and How Many Snakes is Too Many Snakes

    It's 2018 and we're backstreets back, ALRIGHT! Miss us? In this episode we tackle "My co-worker is just too OUTRAGEOUSLY FRIENDLY for me" and "When I vent to my friend, she gives me advice and tries to fix everything, even when I specifically ask her not to."

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    Maybe You're in The Wrong Greenhouse

    A "cactus friend" is a pal who doesn't need a lot of watering or sunlight to feel loved. Did you know that term? Now you do. We think our friend Kate made it up. In this episode, we kinda-sorta lovingly lecture one of our listeners for maaaybe being too much of a cactus friend. Sometimes you DO need to water your friends! Call them back! Answer that text! (Hey, content warning for the first few minutes: sex mentions. And Christmas. Together.)

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    It's Getting Crowded in Here

    Is it possible to have TOO many friends? WE KNOW this sounds like a humblebrag. We swear it is not. Here's an episode about feeling socially overwhelmed, spreading yourself too thin, and caring for your inner introvert when you would rather throw your iPhone in a lake than participate in another group text. 'Tis the season!

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    A Mistake Did Become Made By You

    "I texted about my friend ... TO THAT FRIEND!" and "My two friend groups are fighting. I'm stuck in the middle. Now what?" This episode is all about handling conflict and then moving past it. Also, if you thought the last episode was wackadoodle, hang on tight for THIS thrill ride. Shakespeare, Air Bud, and Jenn's muscles: this episode truly has nothing you asked for.

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    It’s Time We Discuss Marriage

    Is it okay to not allow booze at my wedding? How do I navigate my sister-in-law's nasty divorce? Check out this episode about weddings, marriage, divorce, and toxic family members! This is absolutely the weirdest we have ever been. You know when you're overtired and slap-happy? That's this whole episode.

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